Sometimes, we all need a friend who can be a little direct with us. Here's an email sent by an associate to a friend who had requested a warm introduction and then didn't follow up.
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I apologize if I sounded harsh today. I just wanted to you get the reality of networking which includes soliciting for help from others.
People will often go out of the way to help you because you're a nice guy with whom they like to hang around. I' m sure you get this from your friends as they have worked with you for many years and knows that you are a really talented, nice human being. Because you are always in contact with your friends, there will be many opportunities where you help them out, and the favour is returned. A nice circle of good deeds being circulated continuously.
But then you will meet people who don't know you as well. You will have to do more to prove to them that you are also reliable, and will do what you say you will do.
If you do not follow up on their help, eg you forget to call the person they refer to you , you forget to offer to help them back, or forget to show your appreciation… they may not help you the second time or ever again. When this happens:
1. Your initial contact is disappointed that you have not kept your promises and they are now reluctant to help you again.
2. Your credibility is questioned. If a 3rd person approaches your contact and asks about what kind of person you are, imagine what your contact will say.
3. The referred person that you were supposed to contact will also question your credibility as you have never contacted them.
You may feel that I'm over-analyzing the situation. I am a big believer that the world is small and you never know who you meet.
Word-of-mouth is a powerful yet unpredictable force.
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These are great words of wisdom from a straight-talking friend. So if you ask someone for a referral or introduction, make sure you follow up. And then thank everyone involved.